& in case you needed a refresher: this post & commentary.
I feel like ableism is a Thing that’s often overlooked even by otherwise progressive and mindful people, simply because it doesn’t come up much in conversation as much as misogyny, heterosexism, racism, etc. do. Which is bad! So I’m gonna waffle about this topic a bit.
There are lots and lots of very adequate and accurate ways of describing what a piece of shit Gaddafi is and falling back on things like “crazy” or “insane” is just lazy and inaccurate, as well as offensive. I doubt Gaddafi is like, say, Stalin was, i.e. literally mentally ill. And even if he were, lots of people are and manage to not be murderous shitheel dictators. I’m one of them!
So please, don’t try to push Gaddafi’s crimes onto “well HE’S INSANE”. If he is — I honestly don’t know, some dictators are legitimately paranoid, delusional, etc., again, see Stalin — it merely gives deeper context to his crimes, it does not fully explain them, excuse them or, god fucking forbid, absolve him.
This has sure been a spiel. It probably didn’t make a whole lot of sense or have an actual point, I fear.
so the official reason for The Kids Are All Right getting R21 rating was that “it normalises a homosexual family unit and films that promote or normalise a homosexual lifestyle cannot be allowed”, and that it would “serve as a signal to the public at large that such alternative lifestyles should not be encouraged”
lol i love singapore’s film censors
SOMEONE IS GETTING AN ANGRY LETTER TOMORROW.
I have Pokemon Leaf Green that’s all I’ll ever need.
FYFTMs! Turn on your ask box, I can’t send you anything.
- Fried food twice weekly, deep fried food once weekly max
- No meals after 12am, no snacking after 4am
- Juice once weekly, no soft drink (except diet drinks once weekly)
- Fruits once daily
- Snacks/chips once weekly
My nutrition teacher would totally kill me about this, I think I’ve forgotten everything I’ve learnt last year. Oh well.
I think I’m not at the best place in life now. The lack of control I have over my life regarding my education and transition are really getting me down, I feel stagnant in a horrible way. On one hand I would really like to go out and do altruistic things, but I never pass, people don’t understand pronouns, leading to great social anxiety. I feel like a big pansy. I’m not sure if it’s justified because I have a lot of time to do super things and I am basically too crippled by anxiety to do any of them.
I really fucking hate it when I’m in a meeting and we’re going around with names and pronouns and some sod is like “Pronouns? What’s that? Oh, okay. Hehe well I’m Brian and you can call me a ‘she’, hehehehe, or just like an ‘it’, hehehe, no actually just be like ‘hey bitch’, that’s my pronoun!”
What I hear is “This is a silly, everyone already tell I’m a guy, they already know I’m a ‘he’ because I look like a guy. The only people who have to be serious about pronouns are
transpeoplepeople who need to specify them.”
When someone (someone cissexual) acts like a preferred pronoun is a joke it can make a person who actually does have a need to specify preferred pronouns feel awkward and demeaned.
I’m not saying don’t play with gender, I’m not saying don’t play with pronouns, what I am saying is do it with respect.
I was talking about this with a transwoman friend of mine and she agreed with me that it can be very frustrating to watch a person be flippant and passive about something she and I hold very dear. We were talking about a boy in our meeting that day at the Queer Centre who had acted that way. She recommended “Next time, we should just say ‘okay’ and call him ‘she’ for the rest of the day, or ‘it’, or whatever, I bet he’ll get all awkward when he sees that we’re talking him seriously.”
That’s a great idea, but here’s the rub. One hour of being called a different pronoun as a joke, a joke that you initiated, is not the same as the gut-wrenching and triggering feeling of being called the wrong pronoun when it you’re trying so hard just to be called the correct one. That can and does happen to people daily, for years and years. Not to mention all the years most trans* people had to stay closeted and had to use/deal with use of the wrong pronoun every single day.
Of course, the icing on the cake, something I’ve noticed about the people who treat pronoun intro as if it’s silly/stupid/worthless: They are the ones who get other people’s pronouns wrong. More than once I’ve seen someone who intro’d with ‘just call me it, haha!’ use she for transmen friends of mine (and for me), he for transwomen friends of mine, and singular/gender-specific pronouns for genderqueer/non-identified friends of mine, and etc.
And I know why it happens. Because they think that gender can be read off a person, they think that pronoun intro is pointless because gender is ‘obvious’. But it is NOT obvious and pronouns are CRUCIAL to some people. So sit down, shut up, and start treating others with the respect they deserve.
Okay okay, I’m done.
build vs built
- Ze is of medium build. (noun/thing)
- Ze is built like a brick shithouse. (adjective/describing word)
Some days are worse than others. Today, thankfully, was not that bad a day. :)